"INSTALLING LOVE"

"INSTALLING LOVE"

Tech Support: Yes, ... how can I help you?

Customer: Well, after much consideration, I've decided to install Love. Can you guide me though the process?

Tech Support: Yes. I can help you. Are you ready to proceed?

Customer: Well, I'm not very technical, but I think I'm ready. What do I do first?

Tech Support: The first step is to open your Heart. Have you located your Heart?

Customer: Yes, but there are several other programs running now. Is it okay to install Love while they are running?

Tech Support: What programs are running ?

Customer: Let's see, I have Past Hurt, Low Self-Esteem, Grudge and Resentment running right now.

Tech Support: No problem, Love will gradually erase Past Hurt from your current operating system. It may remain in your permanent memory but it will no longer disrupt other programs. Love will eventually override Low Self-Esteem with a module of its own! called High Self-Esteem. ! However,you have to completely turn off Grudge and Resentment. Those programs prevent Love from being properly installed. Can you turn those off ?

Customer: I don't know how to turn them off. Can you tell me how?

Tech Support: With pleasure. Go to your start menu and invoke Forgiveness. Do this as many times as necessary until Grudge and Resentment have been completely erased.

Customer: Okay, done! Love has started installing itself. Is that normal?

Tech Support: Yes, but remember that you have only the base program.You need to begin connecting to other Hearts in order to get the upgrades.

Customer: Oops! I have an error message already. It says, "Error - Program not run on external components " What should I do?

Tech Support: Don't worry. It means that the Love program is set up to run on Internal Hearts, but has not yet been run on your Heart. In non-technical terms, it simply means you have to Love yourself before you can Love others.

Customer: So, what should I do?

Tech Support: Pull down Self-Acceptance; then click on the following files: Forgive-Self; Realize Your Worth; and Acknowledge your Limitations.

Customer: Okay, done.

Tech Support: Now, copy them to the "My Heart" directory. The system will overwrite any conflicting files and begin patching faulty programming.Also, you need to delete Verbose Self-Criticism from all directories and empty your Recycle Bin to make sure it is completely gone ! and never comes back.

Customer: Got it. Hey! My heart is filling up with new files. Smile is playing on my monitor and Peace and Contentment are copying themselves all over My Heart. Is this normal?

Tech Support: Sometimes. For others it takes awhile, but eventually everything gets it at the proper time. So Love is installed and running. One more thing before we hang up. Love is Freeware. Be sure to give it and its various modules to everyone you meet. They will in turn share it with others and return some cool modules back to you.

Customer: Thank you, God.

Have a wonderful day........And spread God's love to everyone you meet.......

Guidelines of Love

"LOVE" is Musical, Romantic & Poetic, provided you know how to establish it.Following are the most essential guidelines that should be maintained to achieve the "LOVE OF YOUR LIFE".Please don't take it as a joke because the guidelines are provided by one of the leading Psychiatrist.

1. Be true & reliable to the person whom you love.

2. First know the "Love of your life" & then proceed.

3. Be confident, free, frank, bold, liberal, generous, responsible & dignified in making "The relationship of lifetime".These qualities remove suspicion, jealousy, fear, anger, hatred, inferiority/superiority complex & obsession.That is, build up your own personality & be matured enough to carry out the relationship with honor.

4. Make the love-relationship interesting & humorous, but definitely not boring, monotonous & disturbing.Do something new & different.Keep the charm intact.

5. Have patience & proceed slowly but steadily.You'll surely win the race.

6. First deserve then desire...if you've an ambition to establish this sweet relationship with somebody very special & dear to your heart, then get yourself wholly accomplished (physically & mentally) so as to get a permanent position & acknowledgement from your beloved's side.Create a deep, non-erasable impression in the heart of your "Love", keeping in mind his/her own attitude (sometimes in the zest of creating impression, without knowing the temperament of that "Special Person", people create negative impression...be very perticular about this thing).So, mutual understanding is quite essential.For that, first be good friends....chat, roam, have party, stay as close as possible (ofcourse don't intrude), think whether both of you can adjust with one another or not, slowly get intimated & if everything goes correctly, then CONGRATULATIONS TO YOU!!...as you're the ultimate winner of the heart of your "LOVE".

7. Honor the sentiment & feelings of your "LOVE".Share ideas, try to solve his/her problems in a diplomatic way so that your "Love" doesn't have the feeling in mind that you're dominating or dictating him/her.Be friend...not dictator.

8. Love deeply & passionately.Although speechless love is far more deep & true than those with too much negotiation, but still some talks are essential before final conclusion.Always provide that time & chance.Never lose hope or get depressed.Life is ever-changing.Believe in LOVE...Trust in LOVE.

9. Never ever impose your own thoughts, mentality & decision.Never put restriction & snatch away freedom from your "Love's" life, as love is not imprisonment, love is vast & free.Don't ever treat your love as your own personal property & make him/her isolated from everything or everybody.In that case, you'll never be able to get the golden touch of pure love & will finally get the tag of a "Murderer".

Love cannot be achieved by force.If you're facing some kind of problem, then discuss it with your "Love" & solve it peacefully, but never get desperate & your attitude will lead to cruelty & ultimate destruction of this "Divine Relationship".Initiate this relationship with "Love" & not with false"Hatred" or "Rivalry".

10. Always keep your love-relationship a private & personal one.Never give over-exposure as then your "Love" can feel that you're scandalizing him/her & thus feel humiliated.Don't ever offend your love in that way.Then your own "Love" will never be free & comfortable with your company & will always feel that you'll disclose everything to everybody.First take the consent of your "Love" & then give publicity of this "Priceless Relationship of your Life".

11. Don't hesitate or hide to express your feelings to your "Love".Don't ever try to deliver your own feelings towards the person whom you love through somebody else.Be straight-forward, nice & dignified in expressing yourself.Always be in your original self & use your original name while expressing your own deep feelings.If you cannot reach to this level, this shows your own weakness & unability to establish this "Responsible Relationship" by yourself; also it is an exposure to your very own private feelings towards your "Love", which is quite objectionable & matter of ridicule.

12. No matter how close you are in your personal life but still, both of you should have your own independent identity in the professional life.Both of you should have that mutual understanding between yourselves that never ever in your life, you'll get these two lives clashed with one another.This is the most serious issue that both of you have to deal with.Your personal relationship should be healthy enough so as to prevent all the hazards arising in professional life from effecting the "Lovely most personal Relationship".

So, these are basic guidelines that should always be kept in mind before starting a "Sweet & Serious" Relationship of "LOVE".LOVE is fun....LOVE is life....LOVE is the most expensive gift in someones life....these are all very common & justified quotation, but as a result of small miscalculation, LOVE can make or break a whole life.Obviously, it is not a child's play.Thus, a person should have some seriousness before establishing it.

Forward it to the person whom you think to be "LOVE OF YOUR LIFE" & just say those words that you cannot express still now & see what response comes!!May be it is your first step or last chance, doesn't matter...but be brave enough to deliver your own feelings.

TYPES OF LOVE......

Passionate love

which involves continuously thinking about the loved one and also involves warm sexual feelings and powerful emotional reactions.

Companionate love

is having trusting and tender feelings for someone who is close to you.

Now one of the best known theories of love (which means an educated guess that isn't proven fact) is Robert Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love. The three components of the Triangular Theory of Love are:

Passion, the feeling physically aroused and attracted to someone.
Passion is what makes you feel "in love" and is the feeling most associated with love. It also rises quickly and strongly influences and biases your judgment.

Intimacy, the feeling close and connected to someone (developed through sharing and very good communications over time).
Intimacy is what makes you want to share and offer emotional and material support to each other.

Commitment, pledging to your self and each other to strengthen the feelings of love and to actively maintain the relationship.
Commitment is what makes you want to be serious, have a serious relationship and promise to be there for the other person if things get tough.

Now Sternberg also uses his Triangular Theory of Love to answer some of the most commonly asked questions about love:

Is there love at first sight?

This is when we are overwhelmed by passion, without any intimacy or commitment (both of which take time). Sternberg calls this infatuated love, Because there is not intimacy or commitment, infatuated love is fated to fade away.

Why do some people get married after being in love for a very short time?

This is a combination of passion and commitment, but without any intimacy. Sternberg calls this Hollywood love. This is where two people make a commitment to each other based on their passion. Unless intimacy develops over time, this relationship most likely will end.


Why doesn't romantic love last?
Passion and intimacy without commitment is Romantic love. When the passion fades, and the intimacy wanes, the relationship ends.

Love Quotes

Love takes up where knowledge leaves off.

Saint Thomas Aquinas

Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.

Aristotle

Love is the beauty of the soul.

Saint Augustine

Can miles truly separate you from friends...

If you want to be with someone you love, aren't you already there?

Richard Bach

Love does not begin and end the way we seem to think it does.

Love is a battle, love is a war; love is a growing up.

James A. Baldwin

Love takes off masks that we fear we cannot live without

and know we cannot live within.

James A. Baldwin

When love is not madness, it is not love.

Pedro Calderon de la Barca

Love is the immortal flow of energy that nourishes,

extends and preserves. Its eternal goal is life.

Smiley Blanton

Who would give a law to lovers? Love is unto itself a higher law.

Boethius

Love is life. And if you miss love, you miss life.

Leo Buscaglia

Love is always bestowed as a gift - freely,

willingly and without expectation. We don't love to be loved;

we love to love.

Leo Buscaglia

A loving heart is the beginning of all knowledge.

Thomas Carlyle

The best proof of love is trust.

Joyce Brothers

Love is an ocean of emotions entirely surrounded by expenses.

Lord Thomas Dewar

Love is all we have, the only way that each can help the other.

Euripides